Getting Your Ass Handed To You
Getting Your Ass Handed To You
Yesterday was the one-year anniversary of the bombings at the finish of the Boston Marathon. So many stories have been written about the injured, the aftermath and how a country came together to support such a great city and it’s event. After being exposed to such a tragedy, many were left in a daze. Many felt like giving up or felt like quitting. The resilient human spirit showed through and those who were knocked down got up and got on with life better and stronger than ever.
There is a lesson from getting your ass handed to you. Not that it happens, as much as how we all respond. Now the Boston Marathon is a massive example of getting knocked down, but we all experience it in many ways. It could be failing a math test, quitting your workout program, getting fired from your job, putting on 30 extra pounds of fat, falling on a climbing project over and over, hell even trying to get your weekly blog out when you are drawing a blank. How do you pick yourself up, rub some dirt in it and move forward when every fiber in your being wants to quit and give up??
Everyone has their own motivation for continuing, but there a few things I have observed that all successful people do when they get knocked down. (John addressed some of the philosophies behind these tactics in last week’s blog about resiliency. These are the practices.)
Step back and evaluate the good and bad. There is always good to take from any situation. Reflection is important, both self-reflection and situational reflection. It is easy to beat yourself up, dwell in self-pity, blame others, and focus on the negative. All of these do absolutely nothing constructive. Evaluate what went wrong and evaluate the opportunities that were present, either before getting knocked down that you missed or that came out of the situation. Then make a plan to change.
Plan for the long-term, act in the short-term and take one step at a time. I know that this may be loaded with clichés; however, clichés come from lessons learned again and again. Therefore, make a long-term plan (i.e. If you are trying to lose weight, create a realistic time line for achieving this goal, know what your optimum weight is for your activity level, ensure you have nutritious foods in the house at all times, and know what your end goal should feel like) Then act in the short-term (these are daily actions which keep you accountable and feeling as though as your are moving forward).
Always think Motion!! Motion creates momentum. The old adage “An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion”. Motion is everything and is crucial to a comeback! Even if the motion is just a small action to build on, at least it’s something. (By the way, your body is incredibly active even in sleep; so don’t let your body down when you’re awake. Move!) Get in the habit of thinking about motion. It’s the only way to create momentum. In my humble opinion failure is not something to fear, inaction is.
When you make mistakes, minimize them, learn from them, and then move on. This is one of my favorite sayings, which came from a mentor of mine. He constantly said this phrase, which essentially told us not to focus on the fact that we screwed up, but fix it, do what it takes not to do it again, and get our ass back to work! Enough said!
Have the balls to ask for help or support when you need it. This one is key. We all at times need to figure things out for ourselves, but there are times when you need someone to have your back. A team is always stronger than an individual. Suck it up, grow a pair and ask for help when you need it. Everyone has the innate need to serve, but they need to be allowed to serve. If you don’t ask, huge opportunity lost.
Surely everyone has had their ass handed to them at one time or another. If not yet, just wait. It will happen. It happens to me almost weekly in some form or another. So get up, make a plan and move forward. If you need help, give us at Rogue Consulting Group a call. We’ll have your back. You can check us out at www.rogueconsultinggroup.com.
Have a great week!